Friday, February 7, 2014

Unethical Employers

So I have been doing contractual job since I was forced to quit my job in early January and it has been extremely hard since.

These folks who are actually POC last week offered me full time employment due to which I thought it would be a good reason to quit my contractual work and now today they sent me an email as to how they can't have me anymore.

They basically asked me to do research into all the marketing strategies and after all of it was delivered.

After 4 days of tiresome work, they fired me, saying that they cannot have me anymore.

And now I am back to square zero with limited funds and worrying about how will I get by this month and next month.

I had no idea that there were so many unethical employers in Toronto area...

Friday, January 3, 2014

Horrible Employers: Working in freezing conditions

So who knew people could be terminated for reporting health & safety hazards at workplace #Toronto

So here is what happened, on Dec 10th at my workplace, heating went down and we were forced to work in freezing temperatures.

Adnan Topuz, Agentlocator, real estate
Day 1 of heating outage
It continued in that manner for at least two days with zero regard from management.

Adnan Topuz, Agentlocator, real estate
Day 2: Heating Outage

I had to take pictures of thermostat because you know our management just dismisses all complaints.

As per Ontario standards, for any workplace the lowest temperatures are suppose to be min. 18 degrees.

We were way below that and my fingers were freezing. I told that to management multiple times but nothing was done.

So today apparently Ministry of Labor called them and I subsequently got message from owner on FACEBOOK inbox.. Basically saying I was fired.

Adnan Topuz, Agentlocator, real estate

Adnan Topuz, Agentlocator, real estate

And here I thought it was actually illegal to terminate employment over reporting health and safety hazards in Ontario. My only consolation is that I was planning to leave the company anyway but I had to recieve the message 2 business days before my last day.

Addendum: After the owner saw my facebook rant, he emailed me saying that I was NOT fired because I was going to quit. I had to explain how things do not work that way, to which he mentioned that how I am "more than welcome to come back and complete 2 last days"

*MORE DEVELOPMENTS on #workplacehazard*

So my boss after looking at my fb rant, told me that I can come to the office and complete my 2 days

I asked COO of company as to how he wanted me to work to which he said wait for CEO, [guy who sent in the fb msg]

More drama ensued when CEO arrived, he said that he wanted to have meeting with me

Once he took me to conference room, he said, "Why would u post facebook status tht u were fired?"

Me: Becoz ur msg said so

Then he said, "I need doctor's note for u not showing up on Friday." Me: "I do not have doctor's note, I have prescription. It costs 4 note"

To which he said, "I do not want you to be here. You can go home now."

Him: "You can work from home" I said, "I do not have access to anything, how will I work." He dismissed me at that point.

Him: "You will be paid for the 2 days. I do not want you to be here"

And all of this humiliation ensued because I reported the company to Ministry of Labor for horrible labor practices.

Sunday, October 20, 2013

Race, sexual violence, dating and Game of Thrones

So according to my sister, I committed a redonkulously huge boo boo with my date this weekend
and that I was too naive to tell the guy that I liked him. You should have seen the “NOOOOOO” that came out of her mouth.

[On a side note, all women share their date details with everyone they are close to, even when they say that they will not talk about it. Its pretty much of a known fact]

I went on a date with this MOCs [men of color] and surprisingly sane person [yes, yes stereotyping to highest degree], he seemed really cool and super awesome. We were able to connect and hit it off very quickly. Though one of the things that we passionately disagreed upon was "Game of Thrones" and “Thanksgiving weekend”. Anyways, overall I had a good time with him and after which I told him over text that I liked them and I thought we connected and that I would like to know them more. And its been two days since I heard back from him.

I was of the view that the show was degrading towards women and that it was racist. I am not going to indulge in that aspect of it as there are many people who made very eloquent articles so I will just refer you to them [ref: Aamer Rahman– Game of Tropes]

As for thanksgiving, it basically celebrated a genocidal hero. I mean why the hell we do not have a holiday which celebrates indigenous heroes who fought colonizers or is that too much to ask? If we do not celebrate Hitler's birthday because that would be equivalent to spreading white supremacy and demeaning to Jewish population then why care about “Thanksgiving” which basically demolished a population, made people slaves and so much more.

But thats not the point, the point is I was head strong!

My sister thinks that I came off too strong *I honestly don't know what that means* does that mean that men are scared of women who can actually express their views and who know how to stand their ground and articulate themselves?

Please tell me that I am not crazy for being passionate about my perspectives on sexual violence and racism. I care about it as it affects so many of us, because at the end of the day, the world that we live in is not all white and all male. We do not all enjoy the same privileges. Systemic racism perpetuated in the form of “national holidays” or “favorite TV shows” matter.

He said, “its just a fantasy, you are reading too much into it” and I was like, “I understand that its just a fantasy but obviously its a projection of ideals that authors feel. It is coming from a weird place.”

I don't know maybe I come from a place where I do critically analyze everything and I thought he had his views and he had some mental capacity as well. But I guess I was wrong. I am one of those people who have really high expectations from MOCs [men of colour], it makes my heartache when at the end of the day after being so awesome and amazing, they end up dismissing racism as an important part of our lives.

I write and rage about racism because it is a huge part of my identity. I know its pretty hip to say that we are all “equal” and its all good and love conquers all but its seems like love just failed at the step of “Game of Thrones” * sigh *

My dating advice: Make sure you ask your MoC where he sides on his race politics because as WoC, its important to me.

Tuesday, October 15, 2013

Snap out of it

After listening to the thoughts of bud of mine, I revisited my decision on why I do not blog about mental health.

I guess being brown really does a number on you especially where you do not discuss or even consider any aspect of mental health issue.

I have had Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, along with acute depression; there was a time when I was on verge of being institutionalized because depression medication increased my suicidal tendencies [one of the side effects] but I had a really great doctor on campus who would call me every morning and check on me and I had amazing amazing girlfriends.


Though men in my life have never been supportive, I remember getting this from my partner at the time;
                                                                    "just snap out of it" 

I am not sure how you explain to the person who says "snap out of it" when every morning you wake up and stare at ceiling all morning and ask yourself if its a good day to die or if its a good day to have breakfast.
                                                                    "its not a big deal"

                           "WEAK PEOPLE TAKE MEDICATION FOR DEPRESSION!!!"

The reason I dont necessarily yell about it at the top of my lungs is cos everyone walks through their own issue and they have different things to deal with and most prolly much worse than mine. 

And there are time when my mental health is used against me in my arguments, "oh you just feel it too much cos you are sick". 

And its not the first time I have been told that, I have been told that multiple times by the "Queen Bees" of the activist circles. I was told "I was being too much" and "I was sick and I needed help" when I was advocating for a girl leaving abusive parents.

So yeah, life sucks at times and then you learn to shrug everything off as there is no point in it. Basically reminds me of wise words of one of the people I met this weekend; "there is no place for shame in life..."

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